In my last blog, I shared one of my practices for the Solstice—the Threshold Walk. The second, and equally important part of my Solstice practice, is Reflective Planning. In this blog post, I’ll share my process for planning the upcoming year of my life and regenerative livelihood.
By the way, these practices can be adopted for your beliefs and calendar systems—for example, if you live by the Gregorian Calendar, January 1 is a great time for a Threshold Walk outdoors and for planning your year. Or you can celebrate the new year of your faith tradition with the same process.
First of all, let’s explore liminality.
“In anthropology, liminality (from the Latin word līmen, meaning “a threshold”) is the quality of ambiguity or disorientation that occurs in the middle stage of rituals, when participants no longer hold their pre-ritual status but have not yet begun the transition to the status they will hold when the ritual is complete. During a ritual’s liminal stage, participants ‘stand at the threshold’ between their previous way of structuring their identity, time, or community, and a new way, which the ritual establishes.” -Wikipedia
The Threshold Walk is potent specifically because it allows us to consciously cultivate ritual, liminal space—after we cross the threshold, we are no longer our “usual” selves—thus not bound by our usual limits. Instead, we see Gaia as a mirror supporting us to reflect on the big questions in our lives. We can access wisdom that wouldn’t have been otherwise available to us. We can allow ourselves to be changed by this, and re-emerge into our lives with new insights.
In addition, the Winter Solstice—precisely because it is a potent time in the Earth’s cycles between darkness and light, between what’s hibernating and what is about to emerge—is a threshold where endings and beginnings coexist.
The Summer Solstice is a time of fullness and also the almost imperceptible turn towards winter.
This combination of a Threshold Walk on the Solstice is powerful because we
- attune and align our cycles of reflection with those of our Earth;
- consciously cultivate liminal space where we step out of our lives and identities long enough to create openings for transformation.
These Earth-centering, power-gathering practices are a cornerstone of regenerative livelihoods, because they form a strong foundation upon which we reflect on our lives and work for the past year, and plan for the next.
In my experience, the key to a transformative retreat at any time of the year, is to cultivate its liminal nature. How can we create a container so that we feel outside of the usual demands and limits of our lives, and open to new wisdom? We will probably experience liminality in the Threshold Walk. But we also want to plan to create liminal space (where you can shed old roles and identities and embrace new ones) when we do the Reflective Planning.
To do this, we consciously design the flow of the day ahead of time.
To ensure that I have ample time and space, I schedule in my calendar the Solstices and Equinoxes as days when I go into retreat. This doesn’t have to mean that it has to be an expensive time away, though! When my children were young, this simply meant negotiating child care with my partner and communicating the importance that I should not be disturbed while spending the day in my home office.
The day before the Solstice, I prepare by cleaning up my space and thinking about what I need in that space to make it feel sacred and transformative. Candles? An altar? A fresh notebook and pen? Particular music? I always put my calendars on my desk, because this is a planning retreat after all! I also think a bit about how I want to structure the next day—roughly how much time do I have? How will I bring closure at the end? Occasionally, I prepare food that I can enjoy on the Solstice without having to stop to cook (but if you are a person for whom cooking would feel like sacred pause that heightens the liminal nature of your retreat, by all means, please do that!)
I also note at which point I will step out of my “real life” and into the liminal Reflective Planning phase. Depending on the weather, my energy, and how early I get up, I may do the outdoor Threshold Walk first to shift my mind to the liminal mindset. However, if I plan to walk later in the day and we are facing a busy family morning, I can start working on Reflective Planning after I cross my pre-appointed liminal threshold, which could be “when I close the door to my office,” or “after I light this candle.” This year, it was when I took off my apron after supporting Beloveds to get ready for school—I played music and danced and then opened up my journal.
The point is this: consciously choose a moment when you step out of your regular life and into your deeply reflective place, where you are totally free of daily obligations, where you are stepping into your power to be the agent of your own transformation.
Once we cross that threshold, we begin the Reflective Planning process. The three realities below are the core of that work for me. Make sure to pace yourself so that you get to go through all three—there will be tension between giving yourself space to spend enough time on each part and making sure you complete all three AND enjoying your Threshold Walk—all in one day. Trust your process, dip into flow state, and then when you emerge, do a little time-keeping for yourself. You’ll be happy that you came full circle through the process.
Honor these realities:
What is Present
This is an inventory of the past year. One can draw, write, sing or dance each of our success, and the things we are grateful for this year. We do the same for the challenges we faced—especially noting what we learned from them (this is key!). (Sometimes I complete each list before starting on the other one; other times I fill out both lists as I look back to my calendar to jog my memory as I go through the year chronologically.) Do whatever feels right for you! Just make sure you have some record of your process.
When done, spend time consciously giving gratitude for What is Present.
Then, with list of challenges, one can start the next phase…
What Can Be Released?
Looking back at what was hard about the past year, we ask ourselves: “What do I need to grieve, resolve, or let go of? Which blocks do I need to clear so that I can be free to step unencumbered into the next year?”
This is the time where I consciously ask myself “Where am I in denial?” and decide to look at those things. Uffda.
Some years, this takes the bulk of my Solstice retreat. One year, I wrote the things I needed to release on disappearing paper.
With the foundation of gratitude and release of what no longer serves us, we can then step into…
What Can Be
This is the phase when we reflect on our goals for the new year. To begin, envision yourself on the Solstice of 2017 looking back… What big events will take place this year that you want to prepare for? What would you want to say that you did (or didn’t do) that you were really proud of? What would really matter to you? Who do you need to be to manifest this?
“Wisdom consists in knowing one’s place in any given cycle, and what kinds of action (or restraint of action) are appropriate for that phase.” -Richard Heinberg
I often draw a mind map of the main themes that come up, and the goals I have associated with those. For me, the main themes this year were family, personal growth, and my livelihood.
Regarding the first two themes, there are two important events coming up in my life: I turn 50 in February and want to give that milestone the attention it deserves. Also, my elder daughter graduates in 2017, so my time with her is precious, and she will need support to fledge.
For our livelihoods, this is the perfect time to get clear on the Abundance that we need to receive from our work for the next year.
For me, this Abundance is in many forms, such as:
- new professional connections with awesome permie women,
- the number of women I can support to step into their audacious leadership in their livelihoods,
- professional skills that I want to hone or learn,
- the income or time-trade hours I need to earn,
- redistributing my surplus towards high-impact social justice work.
It is clear to me that I want to accomplish all this without overbooking myself (a pattern I chose to release!).
I took the time to think fresh about how to structure my programs and attain all those goals. I also laid out concrete objectives (with numbers!) for each goal. I then listed the discrete action steps that are necessary to accomplish the objectives. What’s poignant and worth noting is that I’ve been struggling for weeks to figure out how to juggle all the competing demands (taking into account when my daughters are out of school, when I’m traveling for work; and my client’s schedules, and the time necessary to teach the material and support folks towards a transformation in their own livelihoods); and on this Solstice, it all fell into place! I got clarity about the duration and start dates for each program, and how my work fits into my life.
I want to highlight the importance of actually putting your action steps on our calendar—the day after this Winter Solstice, I filled out a calendar for my year (noting the big life events), and this week I will use Asana on my computer to track my projects. Include times for revisiting goals and tracking progress—I personally block off the Winter & Summer Solstices and both Equinoxes so that I have four retreats dedicated to liminal space for planning; but I also track my goals as part of my “strategic planning sessions” that I schedule each month.
As I brought my Solstice Retreat to a close, I used “putting things in order” as a way to bring closure to the day. I stored my materials in my Reflection Planning folder, and since I’ve done this for a few years now, I find that these have become treasured records of my journeys in my life and right livelihood.
A Closing Note:
I have no doubt that the breakthrough in structuring the timeframes for my programs happened for me because
- the ample outside and reflective time activated parts of my brain that were more creative than my default “get stuff done” mode, and
- I opened up new possibilities in myself by connecting with the sacred and creating liminal space.
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